{"id":45961,"date":"2026-02-18T09:16:35","date_gmt":"2026-02-18T09:16:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/?p=45961"},"modified":"2026-02-18T09:16:36","modified_gmt":"2026-02-18T09:16:36","slug":"dupa-trei-ani-de-relatie-barbatul-pe-care-il-iubeam-mi-a-propus-relatie-deschisa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/?p=45961","title":{"rendered":"Dup\u0103 trei ani de rela\u021bie, b\u0103rbatul pe care \u00eel iubeam mi-a propus \u201erela\u021bie deschis\u0103\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Nu i-am f\u0103cut scandal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu am pl\u00e2ns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu am tr\u00e2ntit u\u0219i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am f\u0103cut altceva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na aceea, c\u00e2t el \u00ee\u0219i testa \u201elibertatea\u201d, eu am \u00eenceput s\u0103 ies din cas\u0103. La \u00eenceput pentru mine. La sal\u0103. La coafor. Mi-am cump\u0103rat o rochie nou\u0103, ro\u0219ie, pe care o tot probam \u0219i nu aveam unde s-o port.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Radu observa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Ai program disear\u0103? \u00eentreba el, \u00eencerc\u00e2nd s\u0103 par\u0103 indiferent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Da, r\u0103spundeam simplu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu explicam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu justificam.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00centr-o joi sear\u0103, m-am aranjat cu grij\u0103. Rochia ro\u0219ie, tocuri, ruj. C\u00e2nd am ie\u0219it din dormitor, s-a uitat lung la mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Unde mergi?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 La un pahar de vin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Cu cine?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M-am oprit \u00een prag.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Suntem liberi, nu?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A z\u00e2mbit for\u021bat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am ie\u0219it \u0219i m-am \u00eent\u00e2lnit cu Alex. Un fost coleg de facultate. Divor\u021bat, calm, atent. Nimic spectaculos. Doar un b\u0103rbat care \u0219tia s\u0103 asculte. Am stat trei ore la o teras\u0103 din Centrul Vechi. Am r\u00e2s. Am vorbit despre planuri, nu despre teorii ieftine despre libertate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C\u00e2nd am ajuns acas\u0103, Radu era pe canapea, cu telefonul \u00een m\u00e2n\u0103, dar f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 tasteze.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Te-ai distrat? a \u00eentrebat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Foarte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen ochii lui nu mai era siguran\u021ba de acum o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Era nelini\u0219te.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen urm\u0103toarele zile am repetat schema. Ie\u0219eam. Primeam flori. Mesaje. Z\u00e2mbeam mai des. Nu pentru c\u0103 voiam s\u0103-l r\u0103nesc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ci pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi aminteam cine sunt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00centr-o sear\u0103, c\u00e2nd m\u0103 preg\u0103team iar s\u0103 ies, a izbucnit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Ce faci tu nu e normal!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>M-am \u00eentors \u00eencet spre el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 De ce?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Te compor\u021bi de parc\u0103\u2026 de parc\u0103 nu-\u021bi pas\u0103 de noi!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am ridicat o spr\u00e2ncean\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Noi? Credeam c\u0103 suntem \u201eliberi\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A t\u0103cut.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Apoi, pentru prima dat\u0103, nu a mai vorbit despre monogamie ca model \u00eenvechit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A vorbit despre gelozie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Despre fric\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Despre faptul c\u0103 nu-i place s\u0103 \u0219tie c\u0103 alt b\u0103rbat m\u0103 prive\u0219te.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Atunci i-am spus calm:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Exact a\u0219a m-am sim\u021bit eu \u00een seara \u00een care ai plecat \u201ela prieteni\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>S-a a\u0219ezat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pentru prima dat\u0103 \u00een trei ani, p\u0103rea mic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Eu nu credeam c\u0103 tu chiar o s\u0103\u2026 a \u00eenceput el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Exact, l-am \u00eentrerupt. Nu credeai.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Asta era problema.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu propusese libertate din convingere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O propusese pentru c\u0103 era sigur c\u0103 el are op\u021biuni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Iar eu nu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am luat geanta de pe mas\u0103 \u0219i am pus-o la loc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2014 Nu vreau rela\u021bie deschis\u0103, Radu. Vreau respect. Dac\u0103 te-ai plictisit, spune. Dac\u0103 vrei altceva, pleac\u0103. Dar nu m\u0103 \u021bine de rezerv\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A t\u0103cut mult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A doua zi nu a mai plecat nic\u0103ieri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dup\u0103 \u00eenc\u0103 o s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103, mi-a spus c\u0103 nu poate suporta ideea s\u0103 m\u0103 piard\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar ceva se schimbase deja.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nu \u00een el.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00cen mine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Am \u00een\u021beles c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 concurez pentru locul meu \u00een via\u021ba cuiva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0218i c\u0103 cea mai bun\u0103 \u201er\u0103zbunare\u201d nu e s\u0103 r\u0103ne\u0219ti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>E s\u0103-\u021bi aminte\u0219ti valoarea.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>La o lun\u0103 dup\u0103 toat\u0103 povestea, ne-am desp\u0103r\u021bit. F\u0103r\u0103 scandal. F\u0103r\u0103 teatru.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>El voia confort cu aventur\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Eu voiam lini\u0219te cu respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Acum, c\u00e2nd cineva \u00eemi spune c\u0103 \u201eiubirea nu trebuie s\u0103 limiteze\u201d, z\u00e2mbesc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Iubirea nu limiteaz\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dar lipsa de caracter da.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Iar eu am ales s\u0103 fiu liber\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat \u2014 nu din teorie, ci din demnitate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Aceast\u0103 lucrare este inspirat\u0103 din evenimente \u0219i persoane reale, \u00eens\u0103 a fost fic\u021bionalizat\u0103 \u00een scopuri creative. Numele, personajele \u0219i detaliile au fost schimbate pentru a proteja intimitatea \u0219i pentru a \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021bi nara\u021biunea. Orice asem\u0103nare cu persoane reale, \u00een via\u021b\u0103 sau decedate, sau cu evenimente reale este pur \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103toare \u0219i nu este inten\u021bionat\u0103 de c\u0103tre autor.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Autorul \u0219i editorul nu \u00ee\u0219i asum\u0103 responsabilitatea pentru exactitatea evenimentelor sau pentru modul \u00een care sunt portretizate personajele \u0219i nu sunt r\u0103spunz\u0103tori pentru eventuale interpret\u0103ri gre\u0219ite. Aceast\u0103 poveste este oferit\u0103 \u201eca atare\u201d, iar orice opinii exprimate apar\u021bin personajelor \u0219i nu reflect\u0103 punctele de vedere ale autorului sau ale editorului.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fbumzi.ro%2F%3Fp%3D19561&amp;description=Dup%C4%83+trei+ani+de+rela%C8%9Bie%2C+b%C4%83rbatul+pe+care+%C3%AEl+iubeam+mi-a+propus+%E2%80%9Erela%C8%9Bie+deschis%C4%83%E2%80%9D\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer\/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fbumzi.ro%2F%3Fp%3D19561\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fbumzi.ro%2F%3Fp%3D19561&amp;text=Dup%C4%83+trei+ani+de+rela%C8%9Bie%2C+b%C4%83rbatul+pe+care+%C3%AEl+iubeam+mi-a+propus+%E2%80%9Erela%C8%9Bie+deschis%C4%83%E2%80%9D\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/bumzi.ro\/?p=19558\"><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nu i-am f\u0103cut scandal. Nu am pl\u00e2ns. Nu am tr\u00e2ntit u\u0219i. Am f\u0103cut altceva. \u00cen s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2na aceea, c\u00e2t el \u00ee\u0219i testa \u201elibertatea\u201d, eu am \u00eenceput<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":45659,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45961"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=45961"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45961\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":45962,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45961\/revisions\/45962"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/45659"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=45961"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=45961"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/calatorinromania.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=45961"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}